On this week’s episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker chopped it up with Laterras R. Whitfield, host of the Expensive Future Wifey podcast, for a uncooked and revealing dialog about private progress, religion, and the seek for love in a approach that resonates.
Laterras Whitfield Believes Males Ought to Pursue, Not Persuade“Let me know you exist, and I’ll do the rest”
Whitfield is an enormous advocate of a person’s function in going confidently for the girl he desires. “Men should pursue, not persuade, and women should present, not pursue,” he stated. He’s open to assembly ladies on social media however isn’t a fan of daring approaches. “Don’t shoot your shot at me. … Let me know you exist, and I’ll do the rest.”
His superb girl?
“She has to be a woman of God… I judge a woman by how her friends see her… and most importantly, how she treats my kids.”Infidelity, Redemption, and the Energy of Self-Management“Being disciplined is the most beautiful thing you can offer”
As soon as untrue in his earlier marriage, Whitfield has since reworked his perspective on masculinity. “Being disciplined is the most beautiful thing you can offer. That’s what true masculinity is to me now.” He has additionally dedicated to abstinence, selecting self-control as a defining trait of manhood.
Whitfield’s journey is certainly one of redemption, objective, and religion—one thing that speaks to ladies who worth emotional intelligence, accountability, and the ability of transformation.
Rewriting the Narrative Round Black MasculinityWhat masculinity, legacy, and therapeutic imply to Whitfield in the present day
“My dad taught me what not to be [as a man] and my mom taught me what she needed [in a man],” Whitfield stated. Whereas his father wasn’t abusive, he wasn’t emotionally or affectionately current. “Since I didn’t see it, I never got it either… I would look at my dad and say, ‘I want to be a better father.’ ”
Adoption had at all times been on his spirit, influenced by TV reveals like Completely different Strokes and Punky Brewster. This mindset led him to absorb his nephew as his son after a robust dream confirmed what he already felt in his coronary heart.
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