Whereas prepping for a podcast interview some time again, as a result of I obtained the questions beforehand, I did a little bit of analysis into one of many inquiries: what are males’s present favourite intercourse positions? I doubt any of you might be shocked by the truth that what continued to pop up (like right here, right here, and right here) was doggy type and the cowgirl place (i.e., when a lady is on high).
With regards to ridin’, particularly, that received me to fascinated by one thing that was all around the web just a few years in the past: ladies who have been advising that you simply spell “coconut” along with your hips, throughout intercourse, to ensure that you and your companion to obtain most pleasure and satisfaction.
Once I requested just a few ladies I do know in the event that they ever tried that earlier than, I used to be shocked to find that not solely had they, however many didn’t deal with it as some random social media fad — they really nonetheless do it to this present day. Partly, as a result of it’s enjoyable to them and partly as a result of their companion(s) appear to go loopy for it.
Hear, any time one thing sexual works like a allure, I’m going to shout it out — (late) pattern or not. And so, when you’ve by no means heard of the entire coconut factor, you tried it and forgot all about it, otherwise you simply wish to attempt one thing new/totally different/else tonight — right here’s a reminder, in article kind, that coconut-ting remains to be alive and effectively, y’all. And the boys are all about it!
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If this girl is just not acquainted to you on sight, you ain’t an actual one. LOL. Though I do know that lots of people assume that the idea of grapefruiting got here from the film Ladies Journey (you possibly can see the clip from the movie right here) that completely is just not the case. Auntie Angel (whose actual identify is reportedly Denise Walker) is the creator of the Grapefruit Method and though I assumed that this video got here out method earlier, apparently it made its method onto the YouTube streets someday again in 2014.
If for some motive, you’re not conversant in grapefruiting on any stage, I’ll let you know proper now that I needed to obtain this video as a result of it’s completely NSFW — so it’s best to in all probability watch it in your lunch break (in your cellphone with the amount as little as doable) or at dwelling…as a result of chile, the sound results? Whew, the sound results. LOL. Nonetheless, once I sat right down to pen this piece, I assumed it was hilarious that this video is what instantly got here to thoughts as a result of it looks as if, relating to “blow his mind sex hacks,” fruit is continually on the menu.
With regards to oral intercourse, it’s grapefruit.
With regards to journey ‘em cowgirl, it’s a coconut.
What Is the “Coconut” Intercourse Pattern?
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#duet with @mysteri0us.gir1 spell coconut along with your waist 😂😂😂
Okay, so what on this planet does a coconut must do with intercourse? Nicely, for starters, when you and your companion are in search of an all-natural lubricant, coconut oil works effectively. HOWEVER, do understand that the disclaimer on that is you shouldn’t use it if condoms are within the combine as a result of they will really trigger rubbers to be much less efficient (silicone lube is a stable guess for condoms, by the way in which).
There’s one other method that coconuts are kinda-sorta included relating to making intercourse extra pleasurable — and it really grew to become fairly widespread proper after COVID lockdown (2021): spelling C-O-C-O-N-U-T along with your hips whilst you’re on high of your companion.
It’s wild how I forgot all about this till a shopper of mine was telling me how a lot her husband favored her on high whereas it wasn’t her favourite factor to do as a result of it felt awkward to her. Once I mentioned, “Have you ever heard of spelling ‘coconut’ with your hips before?” — at first, she checked out me like I used to be loopy after which she busted out laughing: “Girl, no” was her reply.
Hmph. Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it as a result of, as wild as it’d sound on the floor, the phrase isn’t the purpose a lot because the actions that include spelling it out are.
Whenever you’re transferring your pelvis round to make a “c,” “o” or U-turn, not solely does it intensify the extent of sensation that each you and your companion really feel throughout intercourse, it may possibly additionally enhance the extent of blood circulation to each of your genitalia which may make your orgasms extra satisfying too.
On the finish of the day, spelling “coconut” is just reminding you that there are extra choices to driving than merely sitting there whereas your companion pumps for all he’s value otherwise you humping up and down such as you’re on a pogo stick.
Spelling “coconut” is a simple hack to deliver some selection into cowgirling. Nonetheless…
Truthfully,
the “Fruit” Isn’t the Level. THIS IS.
From grapefruiting and spelling “coconut” to studying articles that I’ve penned for the platform like “How To Improve The Taste Of Sperm” — fruit and intercourse are all the time going to be a successful mixture, a method or one other. Nonetheless, the principle level of this text isn’t about ensuring that you’re a grasp speller a lot as offering you with ideas that may make the cowgirl place one thing that you’re assured about and also you discover a ton of success in doing.
You can also make each of these items occur by incorporating the next issues:
Stretch beforehand. A charley horse throughout intercourse is the worst factor ever — and chile, don’t let or not it’s proper earlier than you’re about to climax. SMDH. Yeah, if you wish to really feel extra comfy whenever you’re on high, just remember to stretch beforehand and that you’re well-hydrated. That may cut back the probabilities of experiencing a totally-out-of-nowhere muscle spasm — whether or not you resolve to “spell” throughout intercourse or…not.
Carry pillows into the combo. Generally driving is a problem as a result of your companion feels farther away out of your physique than you desire to. Placing a pillow beneath him may also help to raise his pelvis, so that you simply don’t really feel such as you’re stretching and straining. Talking of pillows, an extended one can actually come in useful as a result of it may give your knees some extra help as effectively.
Additionally, ask him to place his knees up. Talking of creating the “grind” simpler for you, ask your companion to place his knees up. That method, your again can recline on his legs as you’re transferring your hips round. You’d be amazed how a lot this one hack can do for you. Straight up.
Add lube. Whenever you get an opportunity, try “The Wetter, The Better: 10 Creative Ways To Use Lubricant” and you’ll mechanically see why bringing lubrication right into a cowgirl session is an absolute should. It reduces friction. It makes your actions glide with ease. And it’s simply extra enjoyable. Promise you that.
Lean in. In case your companion occurs to be on the bigger facet of life, a method that you may management his depth is by leaning ahead into him. That method, your hips can higher management how a lot or little he’s inside you, in an effort to get right into a place that provides you the feeling that you’re in search of.
Get him to multitask. Once more, whether or not you might be spelling “coconut” or not and whether or not you might be driving cowgirl or reverse cowgirl — one thing that’s superior about being on high is it frees your companion’s arms to do, umm, different issues. And since it’s so a lot simpler to have an orgasm whereas your clitoris is being stimulated, get your companion to place a few of the lube that we mentioned earlier on his fingertips, in order that he can gently rub in your clitoris when you are driving him. It doesn’t get significantly better than that!
Don’t wanna spell? Hula Hoop then. What when you attempt the entire coconut factor and it’s not a favourite for you (or him)? No downside — when’s the final time that you simply hula hooped? Faux that you’ve got a kind of round your hips and transfer round that method. I’d be shocked when you ended up feeling “meh” about that choice.
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Guys Inform Me What They Love When Their Companion Is on High
Part of the explanation why I’m “team cowgirl” is as a result of it offers a number of advantages to the girl: she has extra management, it tends to be extra comfy for her, it’s an amazing place for a quickie and the orgasms are usually that rather more — great. Nonetheless, as I used to be fascinated by spelling coconut, usually, I couldn’t assist however marvel what guys thought of it and the cowgirl place general.
In case you’re curious, right here’s what 5 of ‘em mentioned.
1. Braxford. Engaged. 35. “Y’all be spelling up there? Who knew? My favorite thing about when my fiancée is on top is what I think every man likes: the view. It’s a chance to see her entire body and experience it at the same time. Not even doggy style accomplishes that. Damn, where’s my lady at?”
2. Denez. Single. 42. “Do you know how many ‘spots’ you have access to when y’all are on top? Breasts are in my mouth. Hickeys are on her neck. Prop my head up on a pillow and her tummy is getting licked. When a woman is riding you, it’s sensory overload! It’s crazy how each one looks amazing in that position too.”
3. Omar. In a Critical Relationship. 29. “[He said her name yet I’m not going to share it] isn’t a very vocal lover. Her body and technique are insane, so even though I love dirty talk, I’ve learned to compromise — except when she’s on top. She’s not saying much but those moans? And yeah, we tried the coconut thing. ‘Cs’ and ‘Os,’ hell yeah. ‘Ns’ and “Ts’? Nah.”
4. Nolen. Single. 45. “45 isn’t old but it’s old enough for your back to show out on you when you least expect it. My experience has been that women don’t want a lot of thrusting when they are on top, so it’s like having some of the best sex without having to do much at all. Well, aside from trying not to bust too quickly. I take that back: riding is easy on the body; it’s work on the brain.”
5. Ivan. Married. 37. “I like the spelling sh-t because it switches things up. We make a game out of it by her picking a word and spelling out while I try and guess what it is. We also try to see how many words that we can get to before one of us cums. 12 words is pushing it unless it’s like ‘dog’ or ‘cat’ or something. I’ve guessed ‘coconut’ a few times and I get what the excitement is all about. Spelling bee sex: try it.”
Yep. I concur.
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